Relationship Wellness

10 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED

10 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED
Written by Aaron

Have you been brooding on how to get a successful marriage? Do you wish to encounter the feel of the  “Happy ever after” phrase? Then go no further . Read these 10 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED to discover it all.

How often young acquaintance get into marriage for the sake of their families,parents. and pressure of friends and later end up DEVASTATED! .Disgusting,Huh.

Realistically, it will surprise you that 80% of marriages are not “built” on solid foundation and undeniably 60% collapsed due to the lack of “Appropriate  Knowledge” on the marriage field which not even our families bother to tell us.

Sit up straight, and cheer up because we have taken it unto ourselves to help you get the best tips before you embark on life’s most special journey (marriage). Below are 10 things you should know before you get married-The Ultimate Game.

1. THE FUTURE DEPENDS ON THE NOW

Now is the time you begin the journey of marriage. Not after but right before you start dating. I know you, How is it possible?- you may ask, marriage on it own is something so huge that if not started earlier can ruin your future when you get to it. During the ages of dating,you focus your mind solely on the ultimate purpose unless you wish not to go further with your relationship. Develop the compassion and understanding to bring tranquility and happiness as husband and wife will do. “Give the once you love wings to fly,roots to come back and reasons to stay”-Dalai Lama

2. KNOW THE PURPOSE OF DATING AND ENJOY IT FULLY

Its all about exploring the life of each other so to equip yourself with enough knowledge about who you are truly, how you can cop with each other  and how  your love for each other can exceed your need for each other and not for melodramatic sake either. Get to know each other to the extend of  even knowing their spiritual strengths not forgetting also their social and physical strengths as well as their weaknesses.

3. PEOPLE GIVE UP BEFORE THEY GET STARTED

As you know earlier-marriage is not just a mere game, its takes discipline, dedication, determination and hardwork to attain a successful one. With the small responsibilities of maybe dating and the likes, some choose to even back down before they take the step.I remember one major problem I had with my wife and my two(2) kids about choosing sides, to cut it short. It was just the beginning and if I had backed down, I wouldn’t have gotten up to this stage. It took determination and handwork, everything was settled when we got to know each others views. We all have different ways of perceiving things, but it takes the great couples to stand their ground and share to a point where all views has equal standard. I believe you too can. Yes! You can!

4. EVALUATE YOUR OWN EXPECTATIONS

Most people are lead into marriages which does not match their heart longing or desire. People are sometimes being forced on us to get that girl, choose this and that, but trust me “without the souls desire, all is useless, and there will be no success”. Take the time to choose carefully what you soul really desire and go after it with all your best. Take some time to ask and search within your heart and listen to your heart. Know what you want and do it sincerely with respect and not affecting anyone negatively. Let not your happiness depend solely on money or power  but warmheartedness, for true love is not about money.

5. HAVING DIFFERENT BUDGETS OF YOUR OWN RESPECTIVELY

Even though you are together but yet still don’t forget each and everyone has his or her personal special needs no matter how glued you are to each other. At a point in time you may need “A” while your partner may go contrary, guess what it will bring? Chaos! Apart from the “together budget” of you two, each of you should allow for personal budgets too, in this sense you may not have to bother what your partner  choose to do with his or hers. Respect each others choice but with moderation.

6. LOVE IS RECIPROCAL

Do you know without compassion and love mankind cannot survive? Yes, it is bestowed unto us to love each other. It is our ultimate duty to love and be loved in return, but here is the case where most people have based their perception only on demanding love without giving same in return. If we concentrate on one-sided love, relationship will seem nagging and abhorring. Consider a mutual  relationship based on respect for each others need. Let your intention be based on loving your spouse even if they seems to be lost from the path of love. Let love lead in all your relations and you will naturally attract much love to yourself if you do it sincerely.

7. LEARN THE SEX LANGUAGE OF EACH OTHER

Sex languages differs in everybody and it is each and everyone’s duty to learn the sex language of their partners. It may be that your partners language is act of service whiles you have not explored them enough to know. In this case you can tell them all the sweetest words on earth, give her more gifts but to her, it will seem like you don’t really care or love her. All she needs from you is the support in chores and if you are blind to see, you will end up being asked the question, “if you claim you love me, why don’t you help me with the chores, the time I would appreciate you more?”. Take the time to explore your partner and learn the most important thing about them,thus, including the Sex Language.

8. MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT COMMITMENT

Some people go to the extend of over looking commitment long before they enter into marriage. Don’t forget I did mentioned early that marriage starts now and if you are not committed to each other, you can create a very weak foundation for your marriage. Be warned! Many acquaintance may behave as committed until you get married,with this i strongly urge you to Explore even more before you two embark on the marriage journey.

In summary, I wish you all the best as you prepare to embark on this amazing journey called marriage. I must tell you, it is really sweet though you may argue sometimes. All the best!